How Much Should You Put in a Wedding Card?
Picture this: you're standing in the queue at the ATM, sweating bullets. Your cousin's wedding is in two hours, and you still haven't sorted the card. Your mind is racing: Is €100 too stingy for family? Will your other cousins judge you at the next family gathering? Should you adjust for inflation?
Take a deep breath - I've done the awkward mental mathematics for you, and I'm here to help you navigate the unspoken rules of wedding card etiquette without losing your sanity (or your savings).
Let's Talk Numbers
I'll cut to the chase. Here in Ireland, the general rule of thumb is:
- Close family: €200+ (sure look, it's family)
- Friends: €100-150
- Colleagues/acquaintances: €80-100
Couples typically give joint gifts, so add about 50% to these numbers
Making It Look Good
It's not just about the amount - presentation matters:
- Fresh, crisp notes from the bank (no one wants crumpled fivers)
- A proper card (not one you picked up at the local Centra)
- Write something meaningful (not just "Best wishes, Dave")
The Awkward Questions Everyone's Too Polite to Ask
Let me answer what you're really thinking. No, you don't technically have to "cover your plate" - this isn't a transaction, it's a celebration. Yes, you can adjust your gift if you've travelled far or spent a fortune on accommodation. And no, you absolutely shouldn't go into debt over a wedding gift.
If you're really struggling with the cash option, a thoughtful physical gift is perfectly acceptable. Just check if they have a registry first - nobody needs four toasters, no matter how fancy they are.
Bottom Line
Here's what I've learned from countless weddings: most couples are just happy you're there to celebrate with them. The gift is secondary. But if you're looking for a safe bet, €100-150 will keep you firmly in the "sound" category at most Irish weddings.
And remember - if anyone gives you grief about how much you've given, they're the ones who need to cop on, not you.
Final tip? Don't let the gift stress overshadow the craic. These celebrations are about making memories, not emptying bank accounts.
Need more wedding advice? Drop a comment below or share your own gift-giving stories. We've all got a few tales to tell!
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